I absolutely hate making decisions! I am incredibly indecisive, even over the smallest of things like what flavour yogurt to buy haha so when it comes to big life decisions I really do struggle.
So I have been questioning why do a lot of people hate making decisions?
I guess as we grow up we learn our decisions have consequences-Either good or bad, or perhaps both. Although if they are small decisions like choosing a yogurt flavour the consequences are negligible I guess. Sometimes you do not know what the consequences of a decision may be and therefore it is easier to avoid making a decision so you do not have to commit to the choice made without being certain of the outcome.However it is important to remember not making a decision is actually a decision. A decision to do nothing. Although making decisions is hard, it is necessary and choosing to not make a decision in order to avoid good or bad consequences can end up having bad consequences.
Making a decision requires commitment to the choice made. Commitment is often frightening as many people like to keep their options open and not feel tied down. Decisions may feel “too risky” or “too painful” and so we seek guidance from others to gain assurance and minimise the risk of making the wrong decision. Although largely you must make decisions for yourself ,sometimes it is beneficial to have others make the decision for you if you are unable to. It all depends on the circumstances.Ofcourse its best not to be too reliant on others but its often good to hear others opinions to help see things from a different perspective. This actually made me think about topics such as euthanasia and abortion where one human being may make a decision for another; but that is for another post!
Sometimes you can not know if you made the right or wrong decision straight away until you begin to see the consequences. It is important to keep in mind though that sometimes there is no “right” or “wrong” decision. Furthermore decisions can be subjective and what one person considers to be the right decision another can disagree with.
Then again Sometimes I feel overwhelmed and panic and rush my decisions and end up regretting them. I guess it is part of being human though and we learn from our mistakes.Sometimes it can seem like we have made the wrong decision but it is actually a blessing in disguise. I often lack confidence in my decision making and am all too easily swayed by what others think.
Sometimes it is necessary to put yourself first and make the right decision for you.That might make me sound selfish and don’t get me wrong I strongly believe on putting others before yourself but sometimes when your hapiness or health is at stake then it is important to prioritise yourself.If someone makes you feel guilty for doing that or tries to stop you then that’s a bit unfair of them.Again this is debatable though and I realise it sounds a bit selfish.
“The hardest thing about the road not taken is that you never know where it might have led.”
True.But you don’t know if the road not taken was full of rainbows and unicorns or wether it was a lone,desolate road with cobras and scorpions ready to bite at your ankles.
Overthinking can often make you wonder what if I had made a different decision? Overthinking can kill happiness though and I guess you just have to accept that your decision will have consequences (good or bad. Sometimes you just have to roll with it.You won’t always know where you are going or where you will end up.I always spend much time worrying about what could have been when rather I shoukd be building on what is now in the present and looking forward to the future.
Just throwing this in at the end. The word decide originates from the Latin word decidere which means to cut off. So when we make a decision we cut off certain options.You choose one road over another. I kind of get that but in other ways decisions can open new doors so yah kind of don’t agree.Somewhere else I read that the cide part of decide means to kill (the same as in pesticide,homicide,suicide).I guess you could say when you make a decision you kill off some of your options to focus or empower the option you choose.
On a more positive note life is full of oppurtunties and one decision doesn’t have to be the be all or end all.Even if you regret a decision you can learn from your experiences in order to make better choices next time.If there were bad consequences there may be a way to deal with them that means they aren’t so bad after all.It’s important to keep moving forward and to learn from the past without living in the past.
Don’t let the sadness of the past and the fear of the future ruin the hapiness of the present.